Alice is the only daughter in her family. She has two elder brothers, one of them a lawyer and the other a businessman. Being the only daughter and the youngest in the family, Alice’s parents naturally loved her the most and showered her with the most affection and attention. In spite of all this, Alice was not a spoilt and snobbish child but full of care and understanding that made her very popular and easy to get along with among her friends and classmates. After Alice graduated from college, she applied for a job as a nurse in a hospital and she successfully got the job she had been yearning for since young. As a new nurse, the chief nurse, Mrs. Wong, assigned two other senior nurses, Brenda and Carissa, to assist and guide Alice in her daily job routine in the hospital. The personalities of Brenda and Carissa were completely opposite; Brenda was friendly, outgoing and extrovert-like whereas Carissa was cold, reserved and introvert-like. Alice became good friends and colleagues with Brenda after some time while her relationship with Carissa remained merely at the work acquaintance level.
After a few months later, Alice checked out that she would be on duty for a particular Saturday which happened to coincide with her father’s birthday and that the whole family had agreed to go to a restaurant for a birthday dinner celebration. Thus she approached Brenda and asked her if she could help her with her duty for that day and Brenda replied no problem. On that day itself, Carissa called Alice and questioned her why she was not at the hospital as Alice was supposed to take over from her at the shift change interval. Alice was surprised that Brenda was not there yet so she contacted her through phone and SMS but she got no reply from Brenda. At Carrisa’s demand, Alice had no choice but to report for work reluctantly and as a result, her family members especially her father, were displeased that she was not able to turn up for this important family function. Even her brother, who was on an overseas business trip, took the effort to rush back for the birthday dinner.
Subsequently, Alice confronted Brenda to check with her why she never turned up on that day and Brenda lied to her that she was not feeling well on that day when she actually went out for a movie with her friends. Alice probed further why she did not return her call or message and Brenda simply said that she was resting at home the whole day and so she did not turn on her mobile phone as she was sleeping. Alice was vexed with Brenda’s attitude and irresponsibility and so she walked away in silence.
How should Brenda have responded when Alice confronted her regarding her absence from duty when she had made the promise to her earlier on so as to prevent any strains on their friendship?
Possible causes: Dishonesty, Insensitivity and Lack of accountability of one’s actions.